I realized after almost two years of following the pickup artist (PUA) community that most of the material on blogs, forums, and books focuses on interacting with women so the relationship can eventually become sexually physical but hardly any teaches men how to actually please a woman sexually.
You’ll find countless websites offering openers but you won’t find many that will tell you exactly what to do when the panties hit the floor. So in this post I’ll give you guys a few resources that will teach you how to give women the sexual experiences of their life. 🙂
I’ve had a friend with benefits for more than a year. We hook up every week. I thought things were phenomenal between us until she recently dropped a bomb.
We were messing around (like, kissing and heavy petting) when suddenly she stopped, put her clothes on and went to the living room. She was clearly frustrated. She later admitted to me that she wasn’t feeling it. She compared it to a guy not being able to get it hard. She gave me a few tips on what I could do differently and even though I was a bit embarrassed, I took her advice.
This event made me realize how I never really learned how to please a woman. As long as I’ve been sexually active, I’ve been doing what I thought women enjoyed. I never took the time to attempt to discover what women actually like. Women not communicating with me only prolonged the problem.
Communication is key before, during and after. Women are different. Some like to be spanked and some like to be choked. You won’t know exactly what your woman likes unless you ask her. She’ll be glad you did since it only benefits her in the long run. When you do this correctly, then she’ll be yours for life. As any seasoned seducer will know, this is also how to make a woman want you really badly.
For a great book on this topic, go look up “She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman” by Ian Kerner.
Remember: you ain’t alpha until you’ve learned how to pleasure a woman.